Dear Savvy Naturalista: Maria’s Workout Man

Dear Savvy Naturalista,

My boyfriend has been trying to get in shape lately. He has changed his diet and has started working out 4-6 days a week. Before he started to work out he asked me if I wanted to work out with him. I told him that I would try but I started to realize that he wanted me to get up to early in the morning.  I didn’t want to get up once the alarm went off just to go running. When he would try to wake me up I would just roll over and go back to sleep. I have been supporting him with his diet, but I just can’t see myself getting up out of are warm bed so early in the morning.

It’s been about a few months and he hasn’t bothered me about getting up to workout with him. I assumed he has gotten used to working out by himself and just didn’t need me to go with him. I found out a few weeks ago that he has a new workout partner and it’s a woman. They met each other about a month ago and they work out all the time. I was so surprise finding out he was working out with another woman. I told him I didn’t like it and I don’t want him working out with her. He feels I’m being jealous and insecure about him working out with a female. He insist there’s nothing going on and I should just trust him. I do trust him but I’m very uncomfortable with him working out with her. I really don’t know what to do because he is not listening to me and thinks I’m just jealous for no reason. They are still running together and I can’t understand why he doesn’t see how I feel! What should I do if I’m not comfortable with the situation?

Thanks Maria

Hey Maria,

I’m not going to blame him for working out with her, because he did give you the opportunity too and  from what I’ve read the bed won over him. However it’s time for you to have a serious conversation with your boyfriend about how you feel. If the situation is making you uncomfortable, then he should respect that and try to compromise with you on this. I don’t think you’re insecure or jealous at all!  If I found out Josh was running with another woman early in the morning I would be very upset. If he still doesn’t understand how you feel. Ask him how he would feel if you started working out with another man. Nine outta ten he would not want you to workout with another guy, so he should take into consideration your feelings on the situation.  This has nothing to do with jealousy but respect; if he doesn’t want you working out with another man then he shouldn’t be working out with another woman.

You may need schedule a workout time that’s convenient for both of you to work out together, or you could find him a male workout partner if that would make you comfortable.  But Maria I think you might as well just get up and accompany him on his workouts in the morning. I mean you support him with his diet so working out is the only thing left. I think you can do it since the alarm has already gone off, just get up and go girl!